• I was sitting on my father’s lap when he gave me his two rules for life. “Always drink your coffee black. That way you can put cream and sugar in it if it does not taste good. (My dad used to let us dip our spoon with ice cream into his coffee for that great flavor.)

    "Always drive a little too fast, then you will be very alert. People, who drive slowly or at the speed limit, tend to let their attention wander and end up having an accident.” I was just four.

    My mother had several more rules to add. When it was time to learn to cross the street, Mother walked me to the corner of the sidewalk and said,

    “Look to the right, look to the left, look ahead, look behind, look up and look down, you never know. If nothing is coming, cross the street. Take your little brother with you and I expect you to be safe and keep your brother safe."

    The next year I could walk to the Saturday matinee at the movie house with my little brother and Mother had a few more rules. She said, "If someone offers you candy or something to eat, you say, "No thank you." If someone offers to give you a ride in their car, you say, "No thank you." If someone follows you in their car, you go up to the nearest house, knock on the door and tell them someone is following you. Ask if they would call me and I will come and get you.

    She paused and said, “Oh, and if a man approaches you, wearing a trench coat, opens his coat and is naked, he is harmless. Pay no attention to him and walk right on by; he only wants to see you shocked." Notice at no time did she say anyone was dangerous or that I was in danger.

    She also told me to only lend something, if I was willing to give it away. The point about rules for children is to have only a few; make them short without dire warnings, lengthy explanations or discussions. You will notice that my Dad's rules said, make life simple and if it becomes bitter, sweeten it up a bit. Be alert and aware of everything. If complacency and routine sets in, you lose all the vim and vigor of life and end up a wreck.

    My mother's lessons were similar. To be safe we must train to be safe. We do that when we learn to look every which way and when the street, sky, ocean, woods and people are clear of danger, move in confidence and joy. The world and civilization are what they are and one can navigate them safely or not, as we are trained to do. Teaching fear is to teach children literally how to get hurt, sick and die.

    Animals instinctively love their offspring and automatically keep them safe. All baby animals are free to play and investigate under the watchful eye of their mother. If danger comes in the form of a predictor, storm, whatever, mother gathers her children behind her, in their nest, cave or bush. Animals learn to hide, run or fight because that is what mother does.

    All human mothers are trained to fear and distrust everything. They are too busy cleaning, cooking, shopping, visiting, etc. and train their children by yelling at them, confining them and to be afraid if free to roam around and investigate. Fear gets in the way of doing what is necessary to be safe, joyous and have life be an exciting adventure. That is why we eat food altered to make us sick and have so called "accidents". Dangerous killers, rapists, thieves and murderers live all around us and our governments send us to war to die for money and power.

    If we want a good, safe life, we need to retrain us to have one. Once our subconscious gets it that we intend to be safe, joyous, healthy and live in abundance, we find we always are, even if it means moving to another place or country.

    33 Responses to RULES FOR LIFE

    1. Uta says:

      Your Dad's rules for a little girl are darling. Another rule for life is to only eat 100% natural ingredients as God intended. Almost everyone dreams about a fabulous body in a swimsuit, but not enough people are trained to avoid eating adulterated, contaminated and poisoned food and drinks. We also need to exercise.

      Hear, Hear and we hope people like you are also avoiding having children until we lower the birth rate to one live birth to two deaths. Now it is three live births to one death. At that rate we will be extinct by the end of this century, if not before. In fact the rules for life have changed considerably since I was a child. It is serous and few people realize just how serious it is.

      Actually since we have killed more species than any other extinction since the "The Great Dying", 250 million years ago, we probably should kick up the birth rate and extinct us much sooner. Eat, drink natural food and be merry for tomorrow is the end. It was fun for none, especially the kings and "winners", while it lasted. Love, Oracle Jai

    2. Jordan says:

      I'm impressed, I have to admit. Rarely do I encounter a blog that's equally educative, entertaining and easy. You have got it. The issue is something that not enough people are speaking intelligently about. After all you say we may be extinct in the next forty some odd years!!! That is so important, especially decreasing the population. I am very happy I came across this in my hunt for something regarding what rules of conduct to follow. We have made this so complicated and you have made it so simple. Love the story form.

      Thanks and of course I too am amazed that everyone still talks about every silly thing instead of the important issues. That way they will be able to get to extinction quicker. Faster is better. More is better. We could learn, if we slowed down, needed and did less. Love, Oracle Jai

    3. Open says:

      very nice analysis- it is a life racing from childhood to death. Unknowingly every parent prepares their children for the race, because they feel insecure if they are not preparing their child for this way of life, for school, for college, for earning and so on), and people forgot to live each moment and they are satisfied with other things at the expense of their own beautiful life.

      You got the race thru life without living it in joy, health, love and prosperity right. Children are copy cats. They copy their parents relationship with themselves, each other, the child, plants, animals. etc. and the world at large. Parents prepare us to fit into our insane societies, like they did, victims and bullies. Thanks for thinking about this. That is the purpose of this blog, think and get a life!!  Love, Oracle Jai

    4. Suzette says:

      An impressive share! I've just forwarded this onto a colleague who had been doing a little homework on this. We had a wonderful time discussing the rules we are taught vs. the rules we would keep. We had breakfast and he paid. So I thank you for the conversation and the meal!! We both love the website as well, the sound and pictures. We are grateful that your post are short, easy to read and understand even thought unconventional.

      Thank you for your comment and sharing Rules with your friend. Childhood is the most important time in our lives for it shapes our future. Love, Oracle Jai

    5. Benny says:

      I noticed that it's hard to find your site in Google and it should be right at the top. Another rule for life is to have Google find what is really important and great for us. Most of us do not even know what to do about our crappy, stressed out lives. Now everyone is going to the social networks to find friends. Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn. What is that all about? You would think that overpopulation would have produced enough friends for even the most desperate and gluttonous. The world of people is insane. I am looking for the door that lets us out of here, without dying, that is. Benny

      Thanks for your comment, Benny. I agree and of course, you know the door to freedom is to smile, laugh and have fun. You do have to see the world differently. Love yourself and what is. Stay full of love and if you feel it changing to something negative, smile and laugh with that wonderful, perfect person you are. Love, Oracle Jai

    6. Cheap says:

      Nice post and a delightful picture it creates in our mind. I feel strongly regarding rules. There are just too many about every topic imaginable. I really like reading what I agree with and would like to learn more about rules. The more people the more rules. People even make them when totally unnecessary. Like what haircut, clothes, manner of walking are appropriate for the place, event or season. When possible, as you will enjoy expertise, could you set us straight on what matters and what does not matter. It would be very helpful for me personally. Cheap

      Thanks for your comment. We each follow the rules we got when we were very young. We dress, act, acquire, work and live according to what will attract what we expect in our lives. If we change what we wear, we change everything, likewise with the car we drive to the supermarket we shop at. We are the Shakespeare of our drama. Make it a comedy and be joyous. What rules we have define us. Want new rules, redefine yourself. Love, Oracle Jai

    7. serena williams says:

      I am so happy to find this net-site. I want to thank you for using your time for giving us this glorious read!! I positively have fun with each little bit of it and I have you bookmarked to check out new stuff you post. This Rules for Life is precious. Serena

      Thank you Serena. It is precious especially if we take a more profound look at what my parents said. First the rules are for safety without instilling fear. This is very important because if animals become fearful, they do stupid things just like humans. Fear itself is a destroyer of appropriate behavior. The story of my captain, in a fear induced panic, nearly dropped the only sail we had and our only means of survival in the hurricane.

      Drinking the coffee black, is the simplest means of taking coffee or life. Make it simple. Then if it needs dressing up, we can always add a bit of cream or sugar. If you start with the clutter, nothing is clear to be enjoyed for it's own sake.

      Driving a little too fast is a lesson to be alert at all times, even when resting or sleeping. Our subconscious is always alert and can warn us. People go thru life with the TV on, walk thru life with phones or music in their ear, instead of noticing what is in and around their path. They miss what life has to offer. When we know we are always safe, we are aware of all possible paths, which are clear and which are dangerous. Be simple and aware as this mountain lion, and we will all be safe, live in joy, peace, health and prosper. Smart parents. Love, Oracle Jai

    8. Scrape says:

      Great write-up, I come here often and decided to read Rules for Life again and lo, you have added a story. Actually I think I read about that storm off New Zealand and they change some of the rules for boats entering their water. The story is great, though sad, and since you were a sailor, you probably know the story intimately. Please add more stories to your blogs, it is so interesting and helps make the issue really clear. I will certainly keep coming. "There is a time for departure even when there's no certain place to go." by Tennessee Williams.

      Do you think he was referring to death? He was often depressed. We are always either coming or going but I tend to focus on coming, rather than leaving. That way I am looking forward instead of looking backward when moving forward. Accidents happen when we focus on the past. The girl in the story assessed the entire situation, as if she was in the past, instead of the present. Our present is always different, always. We need to be alert to that.

      Yes I knew the captain of the sailboat and was in New Zealand during the storm getting my yacht outfitted for sailing around the world.  I then had sailed to New Caledonia and picked up a sailor who needed a ride to Australia. Once at sea, my other crew told me the new sailor had a past that he should have reveled to me before sailing. He told me his story, which was quite a sensation and legal battle in the courts, as to who to blame. People!!! The captain of the sail boat was found blameless and I never judge.

      People totally cause what happens in their lives and blame is stupid, meaningless and needs to disappear as an excuse for what we do. However, captains are responsible for choosing their crew, and he chose an unstable one. Maybe she had big tits or was a sex maniac, whatever and he thought he could handle it. Did he learn anything, I doubt it. Did the freighter captain learn anything, hopefully not to get too close to a sailboat. She was not about to learn anything. She was going to prove she was right come hell or high water and she did.  

    9. Kellem says:

      Thanks for sharing your superb information. Your website is very cool. I'm impressed by the details that you have on this website. It reveals how nicely you understand this subject. Bookmarked this website page, will come back for more articles. You, my friend, ROCK! I found the information I already searched everywhere and just couldn't come across. Well, I did not know what to ask for. What a great site. I really liked the personal touch with the rules for life.

      Thanks so much and I really appreciate all the good stuff about my parents. Once we become joyous all memories take on a joyous color as well. We learn from the disquieting ones. Love, Oracle Jai

    10. Claudia says:

      You can certainly see your skills in the article you write. The sector hopes for even more passionate writers such as you who are not afraid to say how they believe. Obviously you let your heart lead you. Nice picture you conjure up of a little girl sitting on her daddy's knee, even stand on the street corner with her mother and little brother. I can relate to this. We had zillions of rules at our house and loads of brothers and sisters. I will not have kids or perhaps only one. I learned my lesson.

      Good, we need a whole lot less people on the planet and the more women who learned their lesson the better. Women have intelligence and talents unused because of having children. Our kids are with us for at least 18 years. That is our entire youth. No other animal has their kids dependent for so long. In other animal societies the kids grow up and take responsibility. They have to keep up with the herd or die. We even keep preemies alive with our overpopulation killing and destroying everything left on the planet. This insanity had got to stop or we really will be extinct in a hundred years or less. thanks for becoming a loving, powerful woman who will exercise her talents. Love, Oracle Jai

    11. Paul says:

      Hi, just wanted to say, I enjoyed this post. It was funny. My parents gave us so many rules, I lost count. Mother still does from the time we get up to when we go to bed. If she could tell us how to dream, she would do that as well. Keep on posting!

      You are right. The dispossessed have loads of opinions and most are made up, passed down from generation to generation and detrimental to everyone's health, joy, safety and prosperity. If we listen carefully we can find the wisdom and change our lives. Even caffeine is dangerous but the lesson is take life as it is and sweeten the pot with joy not sugar. Being present at all times is the lesson taken from driving a little too fast. Being alert to danger is something your body does at all times even when we are asleep. We just need to accept this, live without fear and we will avoid all accidents and diseases. Thanks for the comment. Love, Oracle Jai

    12. Google says:

      One of our visitors recently encouraged us to read Rules for Life. What a delightful post. I take it that the best teaching is the least one can get away with.

      Put it there pal. The best teaching is just being the person you admire most. Children will copy their parents or whoever is their trainer, nanny, grandma, a bevy of nuns, other children, the cook. Want a happy, loving, safe child then be happy, loving and safe. It is an automatic instinctual trained belief system in the deep subconscious. It is just easier to talk about drinking your coffee black with an occasional scoop of ice cream. Love, Oracle Jai

    13. Adalberto says:

      I explore the internet for interesting articles or blogs in how to improve my life. I luckily stumbled on your site in Yahoo. Reading Rules for Life was not only funny but made a lot of sense. I have a very good feeling about this site and will read all your articles. This could be a book very much needed in this day and age. This is just what I needed. I am a dedicated and constant fan. Adalberto

      It is one of my favorite posts. I had very good parents and they avoided using punishment and fear in their training. My childhood training was being free to explore the environment that went from a huge city neighborhood to a small town on the beach. Our parents just knew we would be safe with a few simple rules in both environments and of course we were. Love, Oracle Jai


    14. Dwain says:

      Hi, Neat post. You are a wonderful and entertaining writer. I liked what you said about rules. We certainly have too many. Dwain

      Thank you for the compliment. Symbolically my Dad was telling me to take life simple and if it fails to work well, then add some sweetness. Driving a little too fast so we will pay attention makes perfect sense. Tear thru life, excited, having fun and pay attention to everything. Sitting on your bum all day, watching someone else having a made for TV adventure and you might as well be dead, life has passed you by. Love, Oracle Jai

    15. Cherie says:

      Thank you for this beautiful website and your writing is quite amusing as well as pungent. I am already looking forward to tomorrow when I will have time to read some more. I would love a discussion, how could we communicate?

      Thanks for your amusing comment. We can communicate right here, after all we are communicating now. I am on skype as Halle Jai. Be sure to let me know what your name is so I accept your contact. Otherwise you can just leave your opinions on the post. Love, Oracle Jai

    16. Lurlene says:

      Rules for Life is really a great post. The rules seem so simple and benign, yet they are profound. The only rules for life are for our pleasure and safety. Makes sense and yet we have a million rules, do this, not that. Wear this, not that. Believe this not that. Buy this not that. Walk here, not there. On and on. I'm happy that you simply shared this useful information with us. Such a sweet story. I see your other posts will continue to inform us as to how to have a sweet, simple life. Thanks for sharing.

      Thanks for a really great comment. The whole post is clearer with your illustrations. Billions of rules which do not apply everywhere with everything. No wonder we are constantly confused and in pain. Time to get simple love, sweet love. Love, Oracle Jai

    17. Stalkton says:

      you definitely have an important weblog here! I loved Dad's advise. I take it that the mountain lion has looked every which way and found nothing coming, so it is safe to sit there. Would you wish to make some more posts on our childhood and parenting? Stalkton

      Of course. Thanks for the suggestion. God was the prototype of parenting for over 50% of us and look how bad he was! Too many rules and he threatened us with his power. He could send locusts, plagues, kill our first born, have the seas drown us, turn us into a pillar of salt, love our brother less and following the example of his jealous father, kill us. Father sure taught him a lesson: Father is bigger. He might love us enough to let us transgress but punish the next five generations of children. Oh the list just keeps going. Terrifying parent. Love Oracle Jai.

    18. Roma Cagney says:

      Do you have a spam problem on this site? I also am a blogger, and I wanted to know your situation. We have created some nice methods and we are looking to exchange techniques with others. Shoot me an e-mail if interested. Thanks, Roma

      Thanks Roma. We have no problems but we would love to hear about yours and how you solved them. Iove, Oracle J.

    19. blacharz says:

      Heya I am here for the first time. I came across this blog and the picture caught my eye. What is this about, I thought. It is truly useful if you are raising kids. Can it be like this running a business? I hope to give something back and help others like you helped me. blacharz kraków

      In business, relationships, in life itself it is better to have few rules. Trust yourself, your employees, your activities etc. to be right and beneficial all the time. One never knows when someone's "mistake" benefits everyone and especially the business. Please keep coming back and gain more. Love, Oracle Jai.

    20. Domenic says:

      Thank you for the auspicious writeup. In fact was an amusing story. You write good, funny stories about your life that helps us understand what you are teaching. I guess rules are for pleasure, keeping alert and being safe. Did I get that right? I look forward to more. Domenic

      Yes you got that right. I wish I had said that in the blog. In fact I will add it. Love, Oracle Jai

      • Suraj says:

        If everybody realized this,  we could live our life to its fullest. As for me, I should consider being alert and relaxed during my life's adventure especially when we eat in hotels and drive in heavy traffic. As you said, we do nothing useful or exciting after reaching home. Let's believe people who are reading this at least, will have enough interest to really enjoy their glass-like life in  every moment.சிநேகமுடன்,சரவணன்

        It is my thought that if you found this web site and read a blog or more, you are already interested in having a more enjoyable, loving, exciting life. Thanks for the comment. Love, Oracle Jai

    21. Melody says:

      Thank you for another magnificent post. Where else could anybody get the message in such an ideal presentation? Wonderful writing. Mother and father, each in their own way, teach a child how to live in the world and be safe without fear of being punished or harmed by another. I have a presentation next week on Anxiety and how to get rid of it without drugs. I'm going to include some of this data from Oracle Jai.

      Thanks for a magnificent comment. Once in a wind storm my mother ran out into the wild wind and we followed. We could hardly see the lamp post, for the dirt in the air. We all danced and ran like a leaf blown this way and that. We felt at home with nature as well as civilization, safe to explore and dance. Fear was not apart of my childhood or adulthood for that matter. I was considered unrealistic, but I knew the joy of a life without fear and was always safe. Alas I wish everyone had this training and now you can retrain yourself. Love, Oracle Jai

    22. Walin says:

      You lost me, buddy. I mean, I assume I  understand what you are saying, but you just seem to have forgotten that there are some other people who would disagree with your so called "truth" and your solutions. You might be turning away many individuals who might have been supporters of your web log if you had considered their side. It is a beautiful site and artistically you have done a fine job.

      I understand you as well. Those who want to continue to live in their illusions, may do so. This is not required reading and people can remain unchanged and continue the Sixth Extinction until its conclusion, without ever claiming their responsibility in the matter. Fear not, my blog is not for them and apparently not for you either.

      It is only for those who have come far enough in their evolution to understand we are responsible for everything we cause in our lives and that includes supporting those companies that continue to pollute our air, water, soil and oceans. Till death do us part. Love what life we have left. Love, Oracle Jai

    23. squidoo says:

      Thanks very much for the wonderful story making your point very clear. Less is more and better. We do give too many rules. People are obsessed by them. What is up with that? I did not give it a thought until I read this darling little post. I will forward your web page to my pals so they can also benefit from this article….

      Thanks for the comment, Squidoo, and for forwarding this site to your friends. The more the merrier. We give too many rules because we think they will save our ass. We think that if we had enough of them and followed them; we would be safe. Of course that makes for more situations, where we can go wrong and blame someone or something else. After all, we were wrong a lot of the time when we were babies and little ones growing up. Love, Oracle Jai.

    24. Read says:

      Hello! I simply want to say I really liked your Rules for Life. Little girl on her Daddy's lap. I loved his rules. Mommy's too. We just need to be loved and safe. Yes most households have too many rules, probably why governments and religions also have too many rules. I will come back to read more. Thanks for this sweetheart of a blog.

      Thank you for the comment. Yes it is one of my favorite and I love the mountain lion on that dead tree hanging over the deep valley below. Of course I like all my blogs. Love, Oracle Jai

    25. Cara says:

      Rules for Life drink your coffee black and drive fast. Love it. And do you? Love the picture of the mountain lion checking out the entire environment, up, down, sideways, front and back. You are a clever writer and designer. We certainly do not want to be like anyone else and especially not like everyone else. Living in paradise is the way to go and be. Thanks.

      You are absolutely right. Almost everyone lives in some sort of disaster of their own making. Better to make believe we live in paradise, respect us and the world of natural beauty. I do drink my coffee black and did drive a little too fast. I also look every which way and I am always safe. The only flasher I ever saw was the one I mentioned, coming home from kindergarten with my girl friend.

      I have done what others called dangerous and lived in so called dangerous places but that never phased me, since I knew I would always be safe. I trusted me to do the right, beneficial thing for everyone. I did not tolerate back-seat drivers because if they were with me, they were safe. Our body and all the trillions of galaxies that make us up want to live and will do everything in their omnipotent power to stay safe. We just need to let them guide us, instead of that negative training we got as a child. Love, Oracle Jai

    26. Cortez says:

      This design is spectacular! You most certainly know how to keep a reader amused. Between your wit and your wisdom, I was moved to write a comment, which I never do. Fantastic job. I really loved what you had to say about rules. Sounds like your mom and dad were sensible people and not into violence or scare tactics, punishments and rewards. Just too cool.

      Spectacular comment and thanks for taking the energy to write it. Yes, we were never punished or rewarded and I never forgot the important lessons. Love, Oracle Jai

    27. Woodrow Sciarini says:

      I just loved your Rules for Life. Your childhood must have been great. I have read some of your blogs and your stories are wonderful. Fantastic articles here. Did the coffee trick work? Thanks a bunch for such a beautiful site. It is a pleasure to visit.

      Thank you Woodrow, Actually if you drink your coffee black you prefer it black. Cream and sugar fails to satisfy and if it is unpleasant or undrinkable, I just throw it out. However, Dad did let us put his coffee on our ice cream and that was delicious. I now love Baileys in my morning coffee. Love your comment, Oracle Jai

    28. Kosmet says:

      I like this weblog so much, saved to fav. "I don't care what is written about me so long as it isn't true." by Dorothy Parker. I think she may have added this one to your rules for life.

      I loved all I read about Dorothy Parker. She was one funny woman. I could add that rule. Love, Oracle Jai

    29. www. says:

      Great post. I became fan of your blog. Going to check it every day. I love the Rules for Life. My mom had more rules than you could shake a stick at. I have no idea what that means but she used to say it. I have too many rules for me and so does my society. Seasons dictate fashion. We wear uniforms to work. That says a lot doesn't it? I want to read more and you have a lot. Thanks for this web site and it is so nice just to look at.

      Thanks for the compliments and yes there are too many rules and often they conflict. Thou shalt not kill and we go to war. Honor thy mother and father, when they fill us with the nonsense that makes us like everyone, wearing uniforms on our head and keep us from thinking and seeing. Honor yourself. Break out of that mindless conditioning. Keep the world safe from people. It will be possible even if we have to go extinct to do it. Love, Oracle Jai

    30. Mindy says:

      I actually want to thank you for the pleasant atmosphere on this site. If it could have a smell it would be roses. Your posts are awesome, entertaining, riveting, short and to the point. I am excited to talk about your ideas and truths with my friends. All your visitors are quite blessed to dwell in this fabulous website, with so many wonderful posts in so much beauty. I feel very privileged to have so much more to read and learn and I look forward to every minute I spend here. Thanks once more for everything.

      Wow, I want to thank you for such an awesome comment. I bask in your light. When you are positive, smiling, loving yourself and everything else, you change your environment which in turn, changes a larger environment and in a blink, the entire world changes. It starts with you. Love, Oracle Jai

    31. Westler says:

      Rattling fantastic visual appeal on this website, I'd value it 10. I loved your Rules for Life. Your parents were very intelligent. You never forgot them and their focus was on safety and enjoyment. As you pointed out, nothing wrong, bad or scary that the rest of us have to deal with on a daily basis. Thanks for creating such a wonderful blog.

      Thank you for such a rattling, fantastic reply. I love that word rattling and have not read it for a long time. Have you been too busy to return? I am glad you are back for another visit. I still drink my coffee black. I did have a really nasty cup of coffee in a terminal and put cream and sugar in it. My dad was right for the symbolic truth but I had to throw the coffee away. Love, Oracle Jai

    32. Carroll says:

      I could really relate to this post. Little children are so darling and I can just picture a little girl on her daddy's lap. At first I thought Daddy's rules were silly but then I thought about it deeper in the next couple of days. The image just would not go away. I have read some of your other posts and know he was very profound. Simple instructions on how to enjoy life and be safe. Bless you for remembering this and telling us. Thanks, your posts are really amazingly good and your style entertaining.

      Thanks for your amazingly good comment. I really enjoyed it and writing the post. Love, Oracle Jai

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